🔹 What kind of features do the things we want even have?
🔸 Why do we like some things but not others?
🔹 Like, why do we never crave eating glue?
🔸 And why do some people want super weird stuff—like being obsessed with the smell of gasoline?
Now you might ask: Okay, but why does knowing this even matter?
Well, the 5 rules we’re talking about this week are actually super important!
Remember how we said before that we’re totally in love with infinity?
If we understand these rules, we’ll figure out:
- what that infinity we’re drawn to really looks like
- and how it’s actually connected to us.
Pretty cool, right?
Stepping into the world of dreams is both weird and fascinating. Did you know that behind every wish or dream we have, there are actually a bunch of rules running the show? That means if our wish doesn’t match even one of these rules, it just won’t come true.
You might be thinking: “But wait—I didn’t even know these rules before. So how have so many of my wishes already come true?”
Well, these rules are basically the conditions needed to make a wish happen. We’ve been following them unconsciously all along! And if you hang on a little longer, we’ll even figure out what’s up with those dreams still stuck in the waiting line.
It Has to Exist Before We Can Want It!
Ever thought about flying on a winged horse? Meeting a flower that talks? Or going on an adventure with a tiny person? But hold up—where do these wishes even come from? Do they actually exist?
Can we really wish for something that doesn’t exist at all? Nope. If something doesn’t exist, we can’t imagine it —so how could we want it? Like, how could we dream of living in a world we’ve literally never heard about? or winning a game we don’t even know exists?
So the first step to wanting anything is that it actually exists. Our wishes and dreams are always shaped by things that are real and familiar to us.
Think about it: if we’d never seen birds, would we even know what “flying” is—let alone wish for it?
Now you might ask: But what about imaginary creatures? They don’t exist, so how can we dream of them?
Here’s the answer: our mind has the power to mix and match. It takes things we’ve seen before and combines them to create something new. Like grabbing wings from a bird and sticking them onto a horse—that’s how we get a winged horse. Sure, winged horses don’t exist, but horses and birds do, and we know them.
So yeah—the very first rule of wanting anything is that it has to exist, or at least be built out of things that exist.
By the way, David’s little sister is basically a pro at inventing the wildest, funniest creatures!
We fall in love with things that actually exist—and because they exist, they can turn into our wishes. For example, back in the old days, when people got tired of their animals being too slow, they wished for something that could move faster and never get tired. That very wish eventually led to the invention of the car!
No Harmony, No Wish!
Have you ever wished for something you actually hate or are scared of?
Probably not. I mean, the answer is so obvious it sounds silly to even ask!
Of course, we don’t wish for things that are bad for us or freak us out. Even if someone handed them to us for free, we wouldn’t accept them. We only want things that have some kind of fit with us, something that feels in tune with who we are.
Like, have you ever heard of someone craving plastic to eat? Or wishing for a glass of motor oil? Obviously not—because our bodies aren’t compatible with that stuff. Whenever we truly want something, it’s because, in some way, it connects with us. If we go after things that don’t match us at all, they’ll only bring us pain and misery in the end.
But wait—what about those times we seem to want things that aren’t actually good for us? Like wanting to watch a trashy movie. Or like someone who’s always craving chips, candy, and fast food but never even looks at fruit. What’s going on there?
Well, sometimes we mess ourselves up through bad habits or sickness —our taste gets totally off track. And when that happens, we can’t really trust our wants anymore.
Wish it were just our bodies, right? But nope. This applies to every part of us.
If our mind goes off track, it’ll start desiring things it shouldn’t—things that don’t suit us at all. And in the end? Same result: pain and unhappiness.
Capacity matters!
Ever sat in front of your favorite food but didn’t feel like eating because you were already full? That’s what this rule is all about.
Wanting something depends on capacity. We can only wish for what we actually have room for.
Think about it: a hall with 200 seats can’t hold more than that. A tiny cup can only hold as much water as it’s built for—anything extra just spills over.
Achieving a wish works the same way!
We can only want something if we’ve got the capacity for it. And even then, we’ll only want it in the measure of the “space” we’ve got inside us.
Like a small flowerpot: when you water it, it only keeps the amount it needs and lets the rest drain away.
The size of our wishes depends on the way we define ourselves. If we see ourselves as nothing more than a plant or an animal, our capacity—and therefore our wishes—stay small. But if we see ourselves as human beings with human needs, then our capacity grows, and so do the size of our wishes.
Here’s another cool point: our “wish-container” is never empty. Just like a glass that fills with air the second it’s emptied of water, our desire space always gets filled.
But it fills in the direction we push it. If we keep focusing on material stuff, our capacity for those kinds of wishes grows—and at the same time, our spiritual side shrinks.
Or, the more we chase after our “vegetative” desires—stuff like food, comfort, and fun—the less we feel like talking to God. Why? Because we’ve already filled our capacity with other things, and our attraction shifts in that direction.
You can’t wish for what you don’t know!
Ever wished you could snack on sugapalats or… rocks?
Nope, didn’t think so! But why would you?!
👉 Watch the below short clip first, then come back to the text.
So far, we’ve covered three of the conditions for having a wish. But here’s another one—maybe even the most important:
We only wish for things we know about. Even if it’s just a tiny bit of knowledge, that’s enough to spark a desire. But if something is totally unknown to us, there’s no way we’ll ever want it.
Think about it: have you ever dreamed of visiting the “Screaming Forest” or the “Village of Twins”? Or of keeping a plant called “Happy Alien” on your balcony? Probably not—because you’ve never even heard of them before!
See, we can’t go after something that’s a complete mystery to us. Like, a kid who’s never eaten chocolate won’t come asking for it. But once they get a taste—or even just hear someone describe how good it is—they’ll never stop asking for more.
And here’s another catch: if we chase after something we don’t really know, how can we be sure it’s actually what we wanted in the first place? We might end up with something totally different.
We said no sane person wishes for something they don’t know. Just like when Daniel and Borna thought David was just messing with them!
So yeah, to want something—or to actually reach it—we first need to know it. And the more we know, the more likely it is we’ll start wanting it.
Like, you’ve probably seen people who didn’t like their major at first, but after a while, they start to enjoy it. Or a student who disliked their teacher in the beginning, but after a while started to actually enjoy their classes? That’s the power of growing familiarity.
That’s why we’ve gotta be super careful about what we expose ourselves to. Even small bits of knowledge can quietly set the stage for tomorrow’s desires. For example, you can’t just say, “I like following this celebrity’s lifestyle for fun.” According to Rule # 4, the more you learn about something, the more your attraction to it grows.
And yep, the opposite is true too—if we want our desire for something to grow, we need to grow our understanding of it too.
I’ve experienced it before!
In the first four rules of desires, we learned this much:
- If we want something, it means it exists.
- There has to be some kind of match between us and what we want.
- We can’t want it unless we actually have the capacity for it.
- And to wish for something, we at least have to know it—even just a little
Now comes the final rule, and it says: If we desire something, we’ve already experienced it before.
Like, if we suddenly feel like having a Chocolate Cosmos flower, or craving a Durian dessert, or wanting to visit Mummy Lake—it means we’ve already experienced them somehow before. Just like a kid who asks for chocolate again only because they’ve already tasted it and know how good it is.
Now you might ask, “But what’s the point of these rules? If we wanna wish, we just wish, right?”
Here’s the deal: these rules aren’t just random. If you want something, that means it exists, there’s a harmony between you and it, you’ve got the inner space for it, you recognize it, and yep — you’ve already lived a piece of it before.
Remember when we said humans are in love with Infinity?
Well, knowing these rules helps us understand what that Infinity is like, and how it’s actually connected to us. Cool twist, right?
If you want to dive deeper, check out The Torch first — then jump into the next magazine!
